The Joy Of Being A Dad

In the first moments of meeting my first child, I specifically remember thinking, “What a gift! What a miracle!” I was blown away by the way God uses nature and humans to create new humans—little miracles. “God, you made that little child through us...wow!”

But my second thought was, “Oh God, you are entrusting me with this miracle? Me? I can’t even be trusted to drive a car well, and you are giving me a boy?

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What I Learned About Grace at My Kid’s Soccer Match

As fathers, our instinct is to provide strength and grace for our children—to guide them, to speak up for them, to speak truth to others on their behalf, and to make things right when something goes wrong. I am the father of two wonderful girls. My wife and I have tried our best to encourage them to try new things, work hard, and recognize that their value is from God, not from what others think. This has been our plan, but occasionally this plan takes us in an unexpected direction.

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Dads, You Were Made for This!

Most of us are good at achieving goals. We know where we want to go, and we map a route to get there—whether we are planning our careers or pursuing our hobbies. Our strategies can be simple and practical, and they can be comprehensive and long-lasting.

We carefully plan out our work and our workouts, but how often do we think about our goals and plans for our parenting? Our kids are so much more important than our job title or our fitness. Let’s give our children the strategic attention they need to help them be truly successful.

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Social Media, Smartphones, and Gaming: Practical Help for Your Family

"Can I have a smartphone?” “Just one more hour of Fortnite?” “Why can’t I be on Instagram?”If you haven’t fielded these questions from your kids yet, you’ll hear them soon enough. And part of what it means to parent strategically is making a plan for how you’ll answer.

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Every Man Needs This Coach

After years of teaching high school, it was still my favorite way to be addressed by students. It wasn’t Mr. Delvaux. It wasn’t Mr. D. It was one word: Coach.

Every young man longs to be coached—a heroic mentor, a wise man he can follow. He longs for a guide through the mystery and turmoil of entering manhood. Without one, he gets lost—or gives up altogether.

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Raising Confident Kids

We want our children to face the world with courage. We want them to speak honestly and tell us what’s really going on. We want our children to be confident. But a lot of so-called confidence is all about us. So how do we help our children grow in real confidence?

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Your Kids Change Fast: Here’s How to Keep Up

“I wish someone had told me.”

This statement could be made about so much in life—from college to marriage to retirement—but I’ve said it repeatedly about being a dad. I grew up an only child, and now I’m a father of five kids ranging in age from a newborn to a soon-to-be thirteen-year-old. There was so much I did not know about life in a large family. I’ve bumbled my way through over a decade now—learning as much from my failures as my successes about what it means to parent through various seasons of life.

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3 Ways to Serve Your Family Without Adding More to Your Plate

Sometimes it feels like there aren’t enough hours in a day. After a long day at work or a stressful day corralling the kids, it can be difficult to muster enough emotional energy to serve those we love.

But what if you were able to serve those closest to you more effectively without adding anything to your calendar? What if all that was needed wasn’t more time, but simply a change in perspective?

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