Helping Your Kids Grow Up Like Jesus

How do you want your children to grow?  What are your ambitions for them—the places where you most want your kids to excel? 

Is it too bold for us to want our kids to grow the same way Jesus did?

It’s not too bold. Instead, it is exactly what God calls us to do: to raise our children to be just like Jesus. 

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What I Would Do Differently If I Could Rewind My Parenting

What is one thing you would do differently as a parent? 

I recently considered this question while talking with my youngest child. He is now 21 and on summer break from college. He asked me what would I do differently if I could change only one thing in raising him and his sisters? A daunting question for those of us with mostly grown kids. 

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Read, Pray, and Sing

Worshiping God with our kids is one of the greatest privileges of parenting. While nothing replaces worshiping with our church family on Sunday mornings, we can also bring the worship into our homes throughout the week. From Don Whitney’s book Family Worship, here is a simple approach you can use to start off your morning or wrap up the day praising God with your family. 

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What Are You Afraid Of?

What are you afraid of? 

I certainly have had my big moments of doubt and fear in my life. I’ll never forget being at the hospital with my wife to deliver our third child and getting a call from my boss telling me we were out of business. I worked at a large bank during the 07-08 global financial crisis. My boss called and said we no longer offered home equity loans to the national market. 

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How to Set an Example for Healthy Tech Use

You’ve likely heard the statistics and seen the headlines: “Technology is rewiring our brains.” Especially our children’s brains. We've already talked about when and how to limit screen time for your children. But today, the conversation I’d like us to have is about the necessity of modeling healthy tech use for our children.

The reality is that if we don’t model how to set boundaries for ourselves, neither will they. Here are three ways you can begin to model healthy tech use for your family. 

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Baby in the House? How to Go from Survival Mode to Strategic Dad

When we talk about parenting infants, it’s all about survival mode. Being strategic is too much to ask, right?

There’s no denying that the first few days or weeks feel like you’re just hanging on. If we just make it through the sleepless nights, the endless diapers, and the incessant feedings, then we can get on to the business of raising our son or daughter, or so the logic goes. But that logic instills a destination mentality to our parenting practices ...

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Teaching Your Kids the World Doesn’t Revolve Around Them

One Sunday morning on our way to church, my son asked, “Where are we going?” 

“We are going to church, buddy,” my wife replied. 

“Why are we going to church?” 

“Well, we are going to church to worship God and be with our church family.” 

“I don’t want to go to church to worship and be with church family.” 

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Becoming the Dad You Want Your Kids to Imitate

As a kid, I did a lot of drawing, mostly of baseball cards, and mainly of Ozzie Smith, the legendary shortstop of the St. Louis Cardinals. He was my favorite athlete, and I wanted to play ball just like him—everything from wearing #1 to turning double plays without opening my glove. I would draw him at the plate, running the bases, tracking down pop-ups—whatever he was doing on the cards I had in front of me. I drew him because I wanted to imitate him. It’s the same reason my kids draw me. And yours draw you.

Most every dad knows what this is like. Whether it’s a school assignment or doodles during a church service, our young children have a knack for drawing us. Can you recall the last picture your children sketched of you? Do you have it nearby, maybe close enough to study for a minute? Don’t write it off as mere childishness; there’s something deeper going on.

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How to Create a Plan to Date Your Wife

On August 16, 2003, I made a promise. In a church packed with family and friends, I looked my best friend in the eye and, holding her hand, I spoke vows.

It’s one thing to speak vows; it’s another thing to keep vows. It’s one thing to dream big about your marriage; it’s another thing to pursue and implement that dream. A dream drives a marriage, and a plan cements the new realities you want to see in your marriage. To date your wife, you have to plan to date your wife. A ship without a sail and a rudder set in a deliberate direction will never make it to the other shore—it will simply drift at sea. A plan for how to date your wife is your sail and rudder—it will take you to your desired shore.

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Worth a Look (June Edition)

There’s a lot of good stuff online—and a lot of not-so-great stuff. Once a month, to help you dig through the depths of the internet and find what’s worth your time, we will send you a couple of things that have been helpful to us as dads. Here’s our June list ...

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The Joy Of Being A Dad

In the first moments of meeting my first child, I specifically remember thinking, “What a gift! What a miracle!” I was blown away by the way God uses nature and humans to create new humans—little miracles. “God, you made that little child through us...wow!”

But my second thought was, “Oh God, you are entrusting me with this miracle? Me? I can’t even be trusted to drive a car well, and you are giving me a boy?

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What I Learned About Grace at My Kid’s Soccer Match

As fathers, our instinct is to provide strength and grace for our children—to guide them, to speak up for them, to speak truth to others on their behalf, and to make things right when something goes wrong. I am the father of two wonderful girls. My wife and I have tried our best to encourage them to try new things, work hard, and recognize that their value is from God, not from what others think. This has been our plan, but occasionally this plan takes us in an unexpected direction.

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Dads, You Were Made for This!

Most of us are good at achieving goals. We know where we want to go, and we map a route to get there—whether we are planning our careers or pursuing our hobbies. Our strategies can be simple and practical, and they can be comprehensive and long-lasting.

We carefully plan out our work and our workouts, but how often do we think about our goals and plans for our parenting? Our kids are so much more important than our job title or our fitness. Let’s give our children the strategic attention they need to help them be truly successful.

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Social Media, Smartphones, and Gaming: Practical Help for Your Family

"Can I have a smartphone?” “Just one more hour of Fortnite?” “Why can’t I be on Instagram?”If you haven’t fielded these questions from your kids yet, you’ll hear them soon enough. And part of what it means to parent strategically is making a plan for how you’ll answer.

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Every Man Needs This Coach

After years of teaching high school, it was still my favorite way to be addressed by students. It wasn’t Mr. Delvaux. It wasn’t Mr. D. It was one word: Coach.

Every young man longs to be coached—a heroic mentor, a wise man he can follow. He longs for a guide through the mystery and turmoil of entering manhood. Without one, he gets lost—or gives up altogether.

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Raising Confident Kids

We want our children to face the world with courage. We want them to speak honestly and tell us what’s really going on. We want our children to be confident. But a lot of so-called confidence is all about us. So how do we help our children grow in real confidence?

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Your Kids Change Fast: Here’s How to Keep Up

“I wish someone had told me.”

This statement could be made about so much in life—from college to marriage to retirement—but I’ve said it repeatedly about being a dad. I grew up an only child, and now I’m a father of five kids ranging in age from a newborn to a soon-to-be thirteen-year-old. There was so much I did not know about life in a large family. I’ve bumbled my way through over a decade now—learning as much from my failures as my successes about what it means to parent through various seasons of life.

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3 Ways to Serve Your Family Without Adding More to Your Plate

Sometimes it feels like there aren’t enough hours in a day. After a long day at work or a stressful day corralling the kids, it can be difficult to muster enough emotional energy to serve those we love.

But what if you were able to serve those closest to you more effectively without adding anything to your calendar? What if all that was needed wasn’t more time, but simply a change in perspective?

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